I have this little nephew over 3 years old, he is very cute that I adore him. During my holiday visit I noticed something in him that I think is a nature in human being, a trace of persistence in independence.
Why I call it so? Well, for a start the other night I watched him trying to move a chair that was heavier than him and his uncle tried to help, but he refused it. He may not be able to pick up and move it to the place he intended to, but he knew that he himself could drag and push the chair to its new location. And that's what he attempted to do on his own. And he did it! Inside, I was smiling and feeling proud of him.
This evening the same thing happened. He was trying to put on his pajama. And then, it was my older sister, his aunt who tried to help. The same thing he refused. Through his struggle which required some balance to put the pants on, some patience and coordination to turn the top shirt outside in because of some mistake during the process he finally managed to put the top pajama on. The only help he asked was for his aunt to pull the top shirt that he previously wore, because he knew he couldn't do it himself. During that process, I told my sister to let him be since, she was trying to help but he insisted to refuse. And I told her what he's trying to say with his refusal.
So here I'm now writing something about his cute little way to represent the need of some independence to let us be who we are. Some helps certainly needed since we are a social creature. However we also need to understand there is a space in us that need us to be who we really are, in doing, saying and think something. Some of us may not really see it that way because the environment surround us, especially family many times dictate and push their ideas to us and out of comfort or laziness we accept it as it is. And we forget about the basic necessity of us to need some space to let us be who we really are.
Human being may have their advances in mixing up the best characters in some plants and animals species to get the best new born breeding. But even in doing so, to let the new born species grow to its fullest we have to give space to it. Every farmer knows this. That is to give distance when they plant the seeds so each will have enough nutrition.
However, when people don't recognize this need, they call it stubborn. And that is what cause people get into conflict. Understanding then of course required to get along with the others. This understanding to accept any persons as they are, will bring balance. And balance brings harmony.
For me personally, knowing this doesn't mean that I'm always in shape of accepting stubborn stray. Some fun to laugh at or enjoy in loosing control over situation can be a merriment in life if you know what I'm thinking about ;)
