Dimension of victory without defamation (2)

In general there is not much different in the character of people who practice this philosophy in their life to the one who practice win-win solution. Both have self-awareness, imagination, intuition, and free-will in their interaction with others. However, there is a distinction between the two. It comes from the approach of the winner in looking into things.

Character

Here's what Stephen Covey stated in the book about the principle of win-win solution. This principle is started from character, then goes to relationship then come to agreement. The agreement is nurtured in an environment where structure and system is based on win-win situation. It takes process; we can't achieve the win-win situation using win-loss or loss-win tool.

It's not being a winner.
It is about being true human being.

I agree to Stephen Covey that integrity, maturity which is the balance between bravery and tolerance, abundance mentality are required to have win-win character. But there is one that we need to add to enable one to practice the other philosophy. That is an affinity to the Truth. This character is very important because it is the one that will help the winner to eliminate the humanly fault during the victory.

In the secular society where people separate their daily life to religious practice, the requirement of affinity to the Truth may not make sense. Because all their life their understanding of religious practice is boring, against their sense of liberty and to some extend the religious people have tendency to be corrupted.

Here what I meant by Truth is truth: Its truth is both understood by religious and non religious people for its reality is based on humanity not religious superiority. I will talk in detail in the example given in another section.

Relationship

Again I agree with the explanation given by Stephen in the book about the relationship required in win-win situation. It said that to make the win-win relationship works trust and emotional bank account must be fulfilled. Without trust the best we can get in the relationship is compromise, we don't have the credibility to learn and communicate openly, reciprocally and in real creativity. With high emotional bank account, credibility is no longer a problem. Deposits has been kept enought that you know and I know that we respect each other deeply. We focus on problem, not on personal or position.

In the victory-without-defamation, the most important aspect required is the solid faith to the Truth of winner. For it had been proved that the other who is the recipient or the defeated ones at the end became the ones that get the benefits through that process. The defeated ones then either agree with the winner or deny their truth as self-evident. You will see my point when I give the examples of this philosophy in another section.

The nature of human being in trusting someone

And in victory-without-defamation, there is no need of emotional bank account. The defeated one either have no emotional bank account to the winner or have a lot it doesn't matter. So often the defeated ones have an essential need to their life that can only be fulfilled by the winner. It's like the course of their life had been destined to be in such a way that the one defeated has to come to the winner somehow.

Agreement

As Stephen said in the book that from relationship then comes agreement that define and give direction to win-win situation. It is sometimes called performance agreement or partnership agreement, paradigm change in productive interaction from vertical to horizontal approach. A win-win agreement includes a wide mutual interaction.

Eventually the one defeated
become either the true winner or true loser
depend on their degree of ignorance

In victory-without-defamation philosophy, there is a distinct approach required to the defeated ones. That is the defeated one must make changes to the principle way they acted before as propose by the winner. It is either that or nothing at all. If they agreed to the proposal, then they will become a better human being otherwise they will remain the same. It is because the proposal given by the winner is related to the truth and to bring people to their true state of being.

After that, either the two sides will be an alliance or not isn't a problem. However, the defeated ones if they take the winner as alliance is then eventually become the winner.

In the next section I will give detail examples to clarify the points I stated here. For this section is the summary of the great virtues done by the great men in dealing with the principle difference related to the Truth. They're the winners in the way they approached problem in their life and they're the winner in the way they dealt with their opponents. I don't use the words enemy for the one that is against them because they knew their greatest enemy is their own lower self. And their opponents are nothing else but the ignorants that veiled people from their true nature as human being. Their action is to take away the veil, once it is accomplished, the purpose is fulfilled and the defeated ones become the winner. That is why in their victory there shall never be any defamation.