Is age matter?

When you love is age matter?

This is a question I have to ask people from any race and any country. Because I see and know two persons with different age about 35 years married and loving each other up to now that their age difference does not matter to them. The woman married to the man when she was young. They had a baby and up to now their marriage stay strong and I see their affection towards each other never cease down. So their age difference was out of question.

But then we also see two persons married in the name of what they call love, yet their marriage lasted for a year or even less for some reason they thought they weren't mature enough to receive such a big responsible such as family life. Yet their ID said their age is over 17 or 18 that society considered them to be mature enough to have driving license.

And then we may find adult and mature persons in term of age, yet have no sexual experience nor married to anyone because they were for some reason was kept in secret from all the proper information from people around them. Can you believe that? Maybe not in society where free sex is practiced but certainly very possible in society where modesty is still practiced.

And we also find adult and mature people in term of age and had married but they flee from their responsible as a father or a mother of their child or come to worse abused their child to fulfill their wish without even cares of the child's needs.

So truly, is age matter when someone love another ?

And then another question to ponder: When you do things for the sake of humanity, Is age matter?
We see a child do something we called great like trying to help their friend from trouble that they face as a child. If you asked them why they did it, they may answer you that because they love the victim and they want to help in any way that they think know without thinking of the risk they have to face. And then we also see teenager do the same thing as well as adult. Like the primary school teachers who tried to save their students from shooting in Connecticut recently. And we consider them to be extra ordinary people. Let's see it the other way around of person who did something bad in accordance to society's standard. When we see this do we really care about their age? Well, maybe when bad things happened age does matter because we will use it as our consideration to justify whether it was the person's or their parents' responsible. But when related with goodness, I don't think it is matter.

Now, why am I asking you this?

Because I just read a question was asked by someone named Rusty Wilson about the marriage of Prophet Muhammad SAW to Aisha bint Abu Bakr RA. She couldn't find any satisfaction from the explanation given by the persons she asked to. Because she was imagining a little child of the age 9 years old had to marry an adult man about 53 years old and consummate their marriage at the age of 13 years old.

I think she shouldn't rely on her imagination but rather seek understanding from it. And the Muslim who answered that shouldn't make defensive answer by making any excuses that may not be acceptable to her or those who dislike him SAW. Because a fact is a fact. She missed the thinking process that a judge is normally used before making decision in hearing the victim opinion. Did she ever question the feeling of Aisha RA - the girl, the wife, the victim (if she assumed her to be a victim) - how did she (Aisha RA) feel as a child to be taken as his (SAW) wife? Had she ever been abused as a child-wife to him? Had she ever told us - today's people - of the bad habit of Prophet Muhammad SAW during their family life? In fact most of the personal life story about Prophet Muhammad SAW was coming from her mouth - that today's people think as his child-wife after she had grown up, years after their marriage. And there was none that said that he had treated her bad. She adored him. She together with his other wives made a strike for demanding some worldly possession (QS 66: 1 - 5). She didn't take the offer to be divorced when it was given. (QS 33: 28 - 29) Yet, she remained loyal to him to her last breath, never married after he died. She submitted to the Greater Cause that held them together in marriage life, regardless the early age (according to society today) of her marriage with Prophet Muhammad SAW.

It seems that the person who asked and give answered forget that part. What they missed is the wisdom behind all the action. What they missed is the Nature's Law (sunnatullah) that involved in it at that time not the mind's imagination of today's society.

Yet, as I have raised the above questions to be the comparison to that situation, what would the answer? Is age really matter? Well, as a person who is living my moment each day, I think that is very irrelevant.